Killing your partner Continuation

Rectification.... The Merry Widow
Lets face it looking for lost items is tiring errand. Did I misplace under the bed ? Hmm... no... I looked everywhere. Then it struck me that this important item is gone ...

What? Am I such a terrible person to start with ? Am I so guilty?

On a serious tone, I married Lim because he gave me security. It was a false impression. If I had to image Lim as an animal, then he would be a dragon fiery- no fun and stingy to the dot. He was a couch potato watching Chinese series having life the way he liked.

As for me, I am total opposite waiting to try different times at any odd hours of the days. After 26 years of a tired marriage, worn out and damaged goods.... I wanted an exit! "Oh, that's your partner? I thought he was your father'. He should just vanished......

Part 3 : How do I hate THEE?


Point 1...stingyness


Below words are able to express how much Lim loves his money. My sister commented that he is bringing all the cash in suitcases to the next world( if it exists). Wishing him good luck  or maybe he had already sent them.


Point 2... Unnecessary comments.
How many times we wished that our partners just kept the  comments within the four walls of their heads.
No.. they have to say the wrong things at the right moment. Great! I wish I was deaf.
I will munched on my food. Are whales suddenly going to eat him? Please God tell me they do.


Point 3... Talking to walls
In the beginning of any marriage, woman loves to talk from nothing to something. I, therefore determined to talk to my partner. Yet, my attempted conversation was a failed missile in Cuba. I learnt NEVER NEVER attempt small talk with a man if newspaper, sports programme or a pretty girl is within a mile radius.
I slowly  mastered my traditional women thing of bottling it all inside and finally psychologically exploring on myself. My weight went up like a hot ballon. Food became my friend listening to me. Who ate my cheese?

My closest friends remembered my day in 2011

Point 4 .... BIRTHDAYS
My day takes the second place of TV or even a game of tennis. Of course we, women know that. But I hope that a cup of coffee and a bit of burned toast might be good.

When it was his birthday, I bought cake complete with candles. Generally,made him feel like a king.
But days or weeks before my day, I would drop hints of hoping for flowers.
'Look, I wasn't expecting a love message on balloons but a flower or two might be awesome. Instead.... he gave me a  pair of scissors and uttered these lovely words, 'Go and cut some flowers from our nearby neighbour's garden'. Should have used those scissors and stab right through the heart.... Obviously, it would made me happy.

When a women finds that the marriage is breaking down, try these options:
1. Have car to achieve freedom.
Why? By having a set of wheels is equal to freedom, to have friends outside the house. in this way, you will slowly gain back your old live. Surely now, you will want friends to share your feelings and maybe to be your partner in CRIME.....

2. Buy a mirror
Mirror.. mirror on the wall..... 
Why?????Look deep within the walls of the soul. Seek a way out. If you are heavy like I was in 1996 at a shocking 75 kg, attempt ways to shed those extra kilogram away maybe slowly you will gather your power to look good. By then, he will know you are breaking free.
The most cruel comment that was said... Excuse me your thighs are similiar to the elephnats. Hello... I didn't want to turn into a four-legged creature after 25 years of marriage.

Lines on the face --- is able to run away with a surgeon would be helpful. If not, take care of yourself from inside out. For me, I found myself after losing some weight. From a size XL to M.

3. Going for classes.. or anything....
Getting hold a gym nearby would be a good start. Sign up for personal training if you can afford. The trainers are good to look at. It helps to get some pampering. You will need them. Other than that, try the classes anything you fancy.

No friends no worry... make them in gym. Be friendly SMILE>>> show you care.

Ways of killing your partner slowly but surely Part 1

All written below is friction and should be taken lightly by any soul that read my blog......

Introduction

I lost my happiness pretty soon after a marriage with no window of escape.How can you lose happiness, you may ask. What is it, a handbag? People tend to lose things from time to time. Their tempers .. sense of humour or even their figures or minds. I couldnot find it . Trust me.... I looked for it harder than anyone and I failed badly like a kid in  school play....

Perhaps you may think that I, May , a simple soul of idiot who always misplaces things? Tend to misplace my happiness in someone's hands. It is true to say that I can find the square root of numbers without a calculator yet to find my happiness and lost my sense of security, is so below me? Haha... my kids would say that to me... a joke or a prank ?

Goodbye to KK

I came to KK with a mission to find my old school which I attended for two months in 1968. After asking a round, I was blessed to meet a friendly lady in Borneo Kopitiam who attended the same school. My old school actually moved from KK to Likas. We found the school. I was happy to see it. St Agnes... fond memory of a small girl.

I learnt a couple of things from this awesome trip:
a) do intense research from getting a good map of the place and google away .

b) renting a car was a good option for me. I drove away and my friend read the map.In this way, we were able to visit many places and saved on fares. waiting for public transport in Malaysia is a bad joke.

c) Eating out is interesting and stress free if you observe where the local eats. Do not be shy to ask for advice. They will be happy to share.If on a budget, look and study the menu. You might regret if you fail to do so.

d) Hotels... again research on line and read carefully. I had two bad experience in Tanjong Pial and Taman Negara. The toilets were like a scary movies. I always check on line and calls before I decide. I even will visit the hotels before checking in.Normally, i will inspect the room and toilets. In Malaysia nowadays, i stayed in many boutique hotels which are reasonable and clean.

e) Lastly, be preapred and have an open mind to see different places with interesting outcome. Si Padan Island ... I am coming.

Day 4 of KK

PORING HOT SPRING
Many years ago, I read an article of this place. I found it exactly like the article. Cooling place with hot water from taps. i even had a big tub to myself soaking and feeling reaaly refresh.

Next, I went to a nearby place to  see Rafflesia for RM 10. Expensive but what the heck.. I came so far.

Next destination is worth the drive from Poring to Kg Meluit near Sabah Tea Plantation. It is awesome and only Rm 5 for a free foot spa and the best time you will ever have with Kelah Fish. I personally had so such fun feeding the fish and with them nibbing at my feet. The fish is safe since they are left to swim freely in a stream flowing from Mt Kinabalu. The feeling is priceless. 

See how many fish waiting for my feet. 

They are going for the food in my palm.

100% awesome.

I discovered that in KK town, there are many roundabouts from big ones , pretty ones and even really really small ones. The little girl  is my new friend found in town .Taken near KK night market.

A beautiful view from the same point watching the sunset.

As the sunset, so was my trip to KK. I really like the people, food and mostly all the interesting experience I had.

Food in KK

I was not prepared to the food in KK. I was really impressed with the local kopitiam. SSo much cleaner than Klang . Price on the average is a bit high.

My favourite place is Borneo Coffee Museum in town. The coffee is so good that I went two days in a row. It really rocked plus trying the bread will Milo and condensed milk. What? my friend said so loudly. I had this idea that it was insane. But after the first bite, I fell in love. So taken away that I tell everyone about it.

Next lunch in Fong Im( i hope that is correct) in town too. The 3 layer cincau in picture is awesome on hot days. The fish cake in the background is good will really taste of fish . Next a must try.. the sambal chilli which will send you back to semenanjung. Pedas Gila!

This humble sauce is great but be prepared. I realised that the pedas comes from the local planted small chillies.Please try and tell me.

DINNER

Since I was with a Malay friend.. we had to eat at local halal stalls in KK nite market. We tried different stalls every nite. Be prepared to do some research first before choosing your dinner. Some stalls charge by the size of fish.. to me bad idea. Cheaper to eat at stalls that weigh and go by the kilo.

I really like the fish here so fresh and the sotong. Yes.. bad for health but then... I am on holiday.

Yummy...

Don't judge the look before trying. Crispy and good .A dinner for two is about Rm 40 to 50 per meal. I really like the paku pakis. Sweet and tender.

Ice Kacang

Here, we all have tried them. But in KK, in Tanjung Aru, I tried the Ice Kacang special. To me, it is really special cos you will find freshly cut fruits in it. Refreshing. A must try!

Last but not less, is a special yet a bit pricey to all Wantan Mee lover is WANTAN MEE SEAFOOD.... found it in Fong In for Rm 10. Be prepared that such a simple dish yet bravo to the chef.Try it.

I liked the crab meat.. sweet .

Day 3 of KK

PULAU MANUKAN

This island gave me the fondness memory but a bit expensive. On the average, it will cost RM 50 per person from boat ride, life jacket, snokerlling set and a pair of flipper which made me felt like a quakie.

Right at the jetty, I saw so many fish waiting for us. I was so excited to swim. Found a good spot and jumped into the sea. My swimming skills are bad but who cares.All the fishes were excited in me as I was with them. I saw lots of ikan bawal emas, I told myself yummy for dinner. Sorry.. no harming of fish during my trip there.

After a quick shower while waiting for the boat, I had a wonderful time enjoying free foot spa as shown. Seriously, you do not need to be a great swimmer to enjoy this. While snokerlling, I was kissed by a blue fish. Unforgettable kiss.Muck.....